C. A . S. H. F. L. O. W[ Care, Attention,Support,Honesty,Faithfulness,Open-mindedness,Love,Wealth] CHARACTER MAKE-UP OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

When one gets into a relationship with another person, some characters that make up their partner’s personality are to be questioned. 

I have done researches through personal, as well as life experiences of others, and these character traits are always on the list;

1. Care

2. Attention

3. Support

4. Honesty

5. Faithfulness

6. Love

7. Open-mindedness

8. Wealth

Although all the above mentioned aren't necessarily characteristics and some may compliment each other, they all work hand in hand to make a working and functional relationship. I put all these characteristics together to form a rather catchy word CASHFLOW so if you came here hoping this was a post on how to make money or cash flow, well, I’m very sorry but you're at the wrong place. But if you’ve read this article so far, why not just enjoy reading while I explain my point.

 

Care:

In a proper relationship care is a basic need. No, don’t think it’s love, because you cannot love someone you do not care about them. It’s like saying I love my partner but he/she should take care of herself when he/she is sick, that makes zero sense. You know why people feel unloved in relationships lacking care, it’s because one’s expectation from a partner is mainly companionship, someone getting to do something for someone else without being asked to….. for instance, if you haven't heard from your partner for a while it is expected of you to give them a call because you care for their well-being. That's a show of care. Sometimes people mistake care for Attention, which I will talk about in the next highlight.

There are many simple ways to show your partner you care, like sending them memes that would make them smile, buying their favorite type of food. It gives your partner an assurance that you consider their likes, washing up dishes or clearing up after having a meal they made, asking their opinion when making a decision even if it doesn't concern you both. Although these are little things, they go a long way in telling someone how much you value them.

 

Attention:

This is a total game changer, especially for people who have very busy schedules. There is a saying that goes “you create/make time for someone/something you love” this is very true. We do make time for the people and the things we love, we give attention to things that intrigue and fancy us and for couples-to-be or actual couples this is a strong glue for relationships. Sometimes people just need your presence around them as an assurance that they still have someone. Now don’t get me wrong, some people love the attention, but for me there’s something called Enough Attention just the right amount. I cannot give this a time frame but being there for your partner at the right time when they need you is golden. For example, if your partner is an athlete being there for their games will mean a lot to them, being there all the time is not a bad idea but this is only if you have the time.

 In contradiction to this, there are particular activities of great importance that you could make time for just to show your partner how much you care .… So yeah, as I said before, all things compliment each other. In giving your partner attention, you show them that you care for their feelings… After all, a stage with a face that truly loves you is better that one filled with faces you don’t know.

 

Support:

It is the obligation of one’s partner to support them in whatever they do except, maybe, murder or an actual crime. Showing support for a partner gives one the assurance that he/she is receiving attention and care. Having someone to cheer you on as you complete a task or activity gives one reason to go on and be better, perhaps even try harder. Support boosts one’s confidence in themselves, especially the support from one’s partner. Take for instance a team without fans, their only drive is self motivation, and once that zeal is spent without getting the desired results, they lose interest in their challenge. But a team with fans to cheer them on can feed on the support of fans and scale through obstacles, knowing they have people rooting for them.

Support from one’s partner is very vital as it reminds them of the value of their partner, it reminds them that assistance isn't far away and that they aren't alone anymore. I mean, what use would a partner be if being alone is no different than being with them? Don’t answer that; it’s as rhetorical as it can get.

 

Honesty:

You don’t necessarily have to be someone’s partner to be honest with them. A lot of people value honesty. Even though most times the truth is ugly, it’s preferable to the lies. I will also address that sometimes we can’t say the truth to just anybody and everybody, which is why your partner isn't part of that niche . A partner is a personal part of you. I believe even if the whole world lies to you, your partner isn't supposed to. I asked a few friends what their take was on the topic, the first person I asked mentioned honesty as the second criteria for a good relationship and she said it was a necessity in even friendship.

Honesty comes along with trust. When one is honest it promotes authenticity in character, it gives one’s partner a sense of peace knowing that there is no hidden secret. Honesty plays a great deal in that it makes one feel genuine love from their partner, because you only tell the truth to people you love and truly care about.

 

Faithfulness:

Oh my gosh! Someone reading this is going to think this only applies to men … Well you're wrong, it applies to both parties. Actually, the same way women wonder ‘why does he come home so late at night?’ men also wonder ‘why is she smiling at her phone when I’m not texting her?’. I mean, trust me it’s even worse for married couples. But really, it doesn't matter the gender, anybody can cheat. But it takes someone who truly loves you, to have self restraint and value for their partner to remain faithful to them. Faithfulness comes with care and commitment, both work hand in hand to bring stability of the mind even when tempted with sexual offers. This trait also comes with maturity, because only a mature person can see the unimportance in cheating on their partner.

 So how mature and committed are you?

 

Love:

If you have read this article to this point and all my points have you scored low, then I’m afraid you need a do over because here comes the ‘L’ bomb. ‘love’ . This four letter word is strongest when it is true and believed by both partners. And to achieve this, a person must show care, support, give attention, faithfulness,honesty…. You see all these things come into consideration before one’s realization of love for another or vice versa. 

If a partner doesn't have all these things in check then love becomes just a word and not an unexplained feeling as it is meant to be. One’s actions can say a lot about how they feel towards a person. Some people do not understand love. as words have never been able to describe what love is and how it feels, but here’s some advice …. Do you know ‘the golden rule?’  it says ‘do unto others as you would want them to do to you’ .

 Also realize that to love another, one must first love themselves. Remember, you must first actualize self-love to love another.

 

Open-mindedness:

At this point I’m realizing you’re already tired, but if your relationship got boring are you willing to spice that up?

Don’t think I’m talking threesomes or bdsm sex….. It doesn't have to get here just yet so hold your horses, have you ever thought ‘my partner and I need a getaway to try new food, new culture, see new places?’. Well, maybe you haven't. But if you were probably dating someone like me, you should think about it. Being open-minded in relationships not only adds flavor to the relationship but also gives room to get to know your partner better if you think giving them attention was enough, try changing up their schedule, get to do new things together, after all, you never truly know what you don’t like until you try it. So keep an open mind, try new things.

 

Lastly,

Wealth:

Please, there is nothing wrong if both parties pay their own bills. In fact, I think it makes things easier, because if this factor is left out then you really have nothing to worry about. But all the same, money plays a very important factor in keeping the peace and balance in a relationship. It makes going on trips and shopping easier, of course, and who doesn't like being with someone who can afford their bills and expenses ……. 

I wouldn't honestly advise people to base their relationship on the net worth of their partner, but it’s better to go on a date in a car than to take the bus.

 

Now with this said and done, I hope you now know the character make-up of a healthy relationship. 

DISCLAIMER: All points noted are based on my own findings and knowledge on the topic. I am no relationship counselor, but remember FIONA CARES SO ASK IT HERE!